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Attraction [Sep. 9th, 2003|12:50 am]
Tkil
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Being a Big Dumb Male, I feel guilty that I'm attracted to many exterior qualities in women that I do not have the male equivalent of. As a simple example, I find visible muscles to be very sexy on a woman, but I am the archetypical computer jock (with a beer belly to boot.)

Some friends — some of them female — have told me that women tend to be less visual than men, and are more interested in personality and other less physical aspects.

Sadly, I don't find this reassuring. My initial reaction is to feel guilty: here I am, being shallow, when she's looking at deeper qualities. A secondary reaction is my devout belief that I lack those deeper qualities, so I lose there as well.

The really twisted part of all this is that I so firmly believe in this worldview that even having a wonderful girl come along and “club me upside the head” is not enough to make me change my mind — she'll learn better eventually.

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[User Picture]From: evelynne
2003-09-16 06:10 am (UTC)
I am primarily attracted visually to faces and mannerisms (confidence and expressiveness, that kinda thing). I have never cared much about bodies. I've dated men who were on the chubby side with beer bellies and I'm married to a man who's skinny. There are good things about both. I've never dated a man with muscles and really don't care, although I can appreciate those too.

One glance at your journal shows you're not lacking in "deeper qualities". Just because you like to look at pretty shapely girls (hell, don't we all?) doesn't mean you don't have other stuff going on too.
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