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Bi Bi Birdy [Feb. 24th, 2004|12:15 am]
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Despite the fact that I wouldn’t want to be a member of any club that would have my member (err...), I recently joined OkCupid. Along with most LiveJournal users, it seems.

I’m amused that most of the matches it picks for me are bisexual and polyamorous. I have absolutely no problem with either of these lifestyles; I’ve dated bisexual women before, and really enjoyed it — the experience of walking along, and both of us “checking out the scenery” is a very fun one.

Polyamory makes lots of sense to me, but it twigs my massive insecurities: I can’t make even one woman happy (thus ruling out multiple partners for me), and if I can’t make her happy, I’m obviously an inferior specimen, so why should she bother with me (thus ruling out my participation as one of her multiple partners). (Translation: I don’t think I’m worth the effort, why would anyone else?)

I did find this thought worth a giggle, though:

I’ve often heard the ha ha, only serious comment that being bisexual doubles your chances of getting a date. The converse must apply, however: if you’re attracted to someone who’s bisexual, your chances are halved.

[User Picture]From: nolly
2004-02-24 05:43 pm (UTC)
No one is going to make anyone else happy all the time.

In a way, I think poly is easier than monogamy, sometimes -- for example, if A is unhappy with B, perhaps because B isn't available as much as A would like, zie can turn to zir other partner(s).

It still requires a lot of work and communication, but so does healthy monogamy.

And if I'm insufficiently coherent, my apologies; I'm still on my first cup of coffee.
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